About us

 I've mentioned before that early in our marriage, we lived separately. I’m in Singapore while my husband was doing his master degree in KL. After a while we realize, that's not how married life suppose to be. And I moved to KL. Finally we lived like a normal newlyweds in KL until 7 months. After that we move to Bandung and live with my parents for 4 months (well we still lived like a normal married couple minus the privacy, if you know what I mean).

Then this.

We lived separately again. I visited him once a month but still. This is not a normal married life suppose to be. Normal to me is; getting married, life in our own house, having babies…be a housewife. At least that’s how my parents did it.

Maybe things different in our generation, there’s more opportunities, and options. I can’t help to think why our married life is so… different? challenging? I can’t find the right word.

And now when I thought I suppose to wait in Bandung with my parents and practice to be a good housewife and hopefully mom-to be, another opportunity arises. An opportunity which separates us even further. Well at least geographic wise. Distance wise we actually became closer.

I still haven’t sure about the decision yet, And It didn’t feel right.

Still doing my istikharah prayer and hopefully we manage to choose for what’s best for both of us.

*amin*